The Journal

Words for the days after, and the years before.

Guidance from care advisors, funeral directors and counsellors — written for people in the middle of it, not for the industry.

The first seven days, one hour at a time

A gentle walkthrough of the week after a loss — what genuinely needs deciding now, and what can wait until you have slept.

Latest writing · 8 pieces

Beyond cost and custom, the question is usually about place — where you want to be able to go, and how often.

You do not need to summarise a life. You need one true thing, said plainly, in front of people who loved them too.

Not morbidity — logistics. A generation that has settled someone else's estate is quietly refusing to hand that job on.

Most of us say nothing because we are afraid of saying the wrong thing. Silence is the wrong thing.

Photos, passwords, subscriptions, the account that still posts birthday reminders. A practical audit for the living.

Six questions that surface how a firm actually operates — and the answers that should give you pause.

A walk, a meal, a tree, a playlist. What families are doing instead of — or alongside — the formal service.

The conversation nobody starts. A script, an opening line, and what to do when it goes badly the first time.

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